Meet Claire and Müfit
We had been trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant for some years, and after going through a number of tests, we discovered that there was practically zero chance for us to become pregnant naturally. Over the next couple of years, we debated whether to try IVF but weren’t sure we could handle the heartache of it not working.
Adoption had been in the back of our minds for a while before we finally started to look into it, late in 2007. Putting aside our hopes of becoming birth parents, we decided that adoption was a lovely way to have the children we had always dreamed of, and the chance to give a child a better start in life than they might otherwise have had. We felt that we had a lot to offer as parents and realized that if we never became parents, we would definitely regret it later in our lives.
Once we had made that decision, we contacted the Ministry of Children and Family Development (MCFD) and began the application process. We knew it wasn’t going to be a five-minute job, filling out lengthy applications, going through the adoption education sessions, and completing our home study – in fact, these elements took just over a year to complete. Over the following 20 months, we had a number of calls from our social worker with potential matches, and we were happy to pursue them, even though nothing came of those. Finally we gave ourselves a deadline of the end of the year, 2010, deciding that if we didn’t have a child by then, we would pull out and try to get on with our lives.
In August 2010, just when we least expected it, we had a call. Our social worker had a match – four-year-old twins – a boy and a girl – and they were already living in our city. The twins had very few issues; they sounded like wonderful children and so we agreed to take a look at their profiles. After going through all the information we had on them, we couldn’t see any concerns. We were interviewed by the twins’ guardianship worker, but told that there were a couple of other families in the running too, so we tried not to get our hopes up. But, a couple of days later we had another call from our social worker saying that if we would like to adopt the twins, they were ours! Of course we said yes and then spent the next month not really believing it!
We first met the twins at their foster home at the beginning of October. We will never forget how Leland came running out of the house shouting, “Daddy, daddy, daddy!” and throwing himself into my husband’s arms. We have just celebrated the 4th anniversary of our adoption, and Leland and Sarah are now beautiful eight-year-old children who enjoy all the things that most other children do.
Adoption is by no means a quick and easy process; it takes patience and determination, just like parenting does, but our advice is, “Don’t give up! There’s a perfect match out there for you and you will get there in the end.”